Monday, January 25, 2010

What a day...

Seriously! I used to love winter, but thanks to this non-stop-ness of ridiculous wintery weather, I'm done with it. Doesn't Spring seem like a far off dream? A beautiful and lovely far off dream?

So what to do on such a lowsy day? Think and pray about how to deal with my greatly, loved first born and his newest activity: tantrums. He was never one to throw tantrums when he was little. I can only think of 1 or 2 times where I've had to deal with a tantrum in a store. But the last month or so they have been occuring at least a few times a week. And they're crazy. We had just had a few good days with no tantrums and then had one this morning. I know he's 3. I know most kids have some sort of tantrums. I know I'm not alone. But it just stinks. He's such a sweet boy normally. Even after the tantrum (which usually only last for a few minutes) he's back to being sweet and cute and giving hugs and saying he's sorry. I hate seeing him do it. I hate that for whatever reason he feels he needs to start yelling and screaming and freaking out. I hate that I feel like it was something that I did or didn't do. Did I not do things correctly when he was little to prevent them now? Ah! I found a blog on dealing with tantrums and preventing them and I feel like most of the bullet points are things we already do. RJ and I are very calm people and don't do much yelling, so I don't think he's learning it from us. I know it's that ugly sin nature, but I can't help but think it's partially me too....what to do?

But since today is the most depressing day of the year (for real) I'll move on to something more fun. My big birthday is just around the corner and Valentine's Day is shortly after. This year, I asked if for my present for both holidays could be to redo our bedroom. When Henry moved to his big boy room, our room had to become the office. And I never got things back on the wall. The comforter we have doesn't match. It's just a sad little room with no personality. So I get to buy a new bedding set and paint the walls. I have already bought 2 comforters and have taken them back. You just don't know until you get them home sometimes. Plus, I know I will not be doing this again for a long time so I want to make sure it's one I'm gonna love for a long time. I was going to go all black and white. Then I was going to go dark gray and blue. Now I'm leaning towards a couple of different quilts. Seriously, I have the hardest time making a decision! So stayed tuned for some ugly before pictures and some (hopefully) beautiful after pictures!!

And that's all my rambling for today. Hopefully some pictures for tomorrow.


une autre mère said...

Wish I had a cure to give you for tantrums, but I'm coming up with nothin'. Good thing he's so cute, huh? It's hard for me to even picture sweet, innocent little Henry throwing a screaming fit!

How fun to redo your bedroom! Can't wait to see the pictures! Happy decorating!

Alisa said...

All I can say is this: 3 years old was a tough age for Noah. I just looked at him with pity, knowing he was in a struggle between being older, but not able to handle all of those big boy emotions. He didn't know what to do with himself, and it ended up coming out in an ugly way. Stay the course - Henry is going to turn out to be a wonderful, loving little man. He already is! The bumps are hard along the way, though. I'm so with you!!

Looking forward to your redo! I'm very, very excited for you. Changing up a home is such an adrenaline rush!

Mama Foster said...

i literally just had this conversation with corbin's grandma last night, feeling like i was doing something wrong with ben because he is so short tempered when something doesnt work right or go his way. she reminded me too about their little sin natures within them. we just have to do the best we can and remember that this age will pass!

The Sneaky Mommy said...

Abby, I am so sorry you are going through a tough stage with little Henry! Keep living, teaching, and showing him the Gospel! He needs Jesus to cover his tantrum sins just as much as I need Jesus to cover my! Praying for you!

Elizabeth said...

Abby! Totally understand your tantrum conundrum. I'm frighted that 3 is supposed to be worse than 2 - cuz we have some AWFUL moments. We definitely don't have it figured out either, it's discouraging - but lately, we've been praying with/for Ryan after he settles down and that has seemed to help him understand some concepts. AND it keeps us cool, calm, collected and focused on what our little man really needs: Christ.
Can't wait to see/hear about your bedroom!

Amy@My Front Porch said...

Aw, so sorry to hear about the tantrums. I'll probably be crying to you about the same thing in a few years.

Can't wait to see pictures of the new room! I totally feel ya on the indeciseveness in that area! I'm sure whatever you do will look great though!


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